Everyone knows what a bully is. We've all see one in action. Maybe it was our friend that was the target...maybe it was us. Anyone who has ever experienced being bullied as a child knows one thing: a bully won't just stop. They never stop on their own. Bullies don't get bored beating down their victim, they get off on the victimization of others. The beating need not be physical either. Many bullies prefer psychological torture. If any of you had or have children that were bullied in school, you know what I mean. Reporting the bully to the school doesn't really work, not with a true bully. A true bully gets off on the fact that you the parent as well as your child feel powerless to them. They will taunt you. Sure they will be very cooperative with the authority figure...but after that they will taunt you, they will mock you and they will encourage you to call the authorities again.
Because they know exactly how far they can go and stay out of trouble. Hell, they will even rally people to their cause. Soon, they are the victim and people look at you like you are a cruel and heartless beast. How dare you try and destroy this poor soul? Get this poor down on his luck guy or gal in trouble. Suddenly, in the grand audience of the bully, YOU are the rotten person trying to victimize the bully and your bully is sitting there getting the hugs and the pity and you are trying to figure out what the hell to do.
So, what do you do? Do you stand up for yourself and fight back? You've done all the right things, you ignored him, you went to the authorities, you tried everything you could to get the bully to just leave you alone. You've listened to well meaning advice about taking the high road. None of that worked. You are still getting relentlessly attacked and the bully is being encouraged to do it by people that believe YOU are the bad person. The victim is seen as the victimizer and the bully is believed to be the victim...because you chose to take the high road and ignore the attacks.
Now what do you do? Do you let the bully continue because no authority can stop him? Or do you stand up for yourself and say enough is enough?